A Love/Hate Relationship

As most of you have heard by now, after a woman compared President Obama to Adolf Hitler in a town hall meeting, U.S. Representative Barney Frank responded, “It is a tribute to the First Amendment that this kind of vile, contemptible nonsense is so freely propagated.” I agree. She had a right to make the comparison, and Frank had a right to call the comparison vile.

For obvious reasons, this encounter was on my mind yesterday morning when a small group of extreme protesters (or, to be fair, “protesters who some have deemed to be extreme”) visited Vermont to protest gay marriage as well as, it seemed to this biased observer, everything else. They were doing so on behalf of God. I’m not making that up. One of the women in the group said, “you’re darn tootin’ we’re a hate group. We’re preaching the hatred of God.” I can’t begin to imagine what makes these people tick; how one goes about justifying such a message. What I can state with full confidence, though, is that the majority of Vermonters disagree. And disagree they did.

As a writer, my predilection is to use visual aids only when they can complement the written word. After witnessing yesterday’s events, though, I understand that the only proper way to document this story is to complement the photographs with captions.

This story is one of love and hate. While love is appropriate for all ages, the photo essay that follows might not be.

We love Viva Espresso for opening at 6 a.m. …

… so that Sarah and I could get our coffee.

And then Jen showed up and was loved …

… and reenacted the morning’s news.

And then the sun showed up.

And we love the sun.

When we saw this, we knew Montpelier loved us.

And God loves Anne.

And other people showed up …

… to show their love.

And this guy loved the shirt right off of his back.

And then the hate came.

But that didn’t stop the love.

And love laughed …

… and laughed …

… because hate is no match for love …

… and because the joke was on hate.

You see, every minute they hated, love raised money. (For more information, see the Facebook group Westboro Baptist Church Hates, Montpelier High School Donates.)

And raise money they did!

Even God helped.

And so did Peace.

And hate kept hating.

And we kept loving …

… even when it would have been easy not to.

Because love has no limits.

Not even in the eyes of the law.

So we honked for love.

And we sang for love.

And we flew balloons for love.

And they kept on hating.

And we saw their hate …

… and raised them peace.

And because of this …

… we prayed for them …

… and kept on loving.

Because why hate …

… when you can smile?

Our love is divine …

… no matter what they say.

And we walked proudly …

… around town.

Wherever hate went …

… love followed

(and the media).

And as much as hate tried …

… love was right …

… and strong.

And while hate disappeared …

… love burned brightly …

… on and on and on and on …

October 2, 2010

You can count this among a seemingly endless list of blog entries begun in a setting that has been an all too common one for me lately (as opposed to “not Uncommon”): the same coffee shop I once swore I could never love (because I considered it as cozy as an Amtrack train car rolling slowly through the bad parts of Connecticut [the parts I like to call “Connecticut”]) and the same coffee shop that, for the last 6 months, has served as the figurative and literal outlet for my creativity. A year ago, as I walked down Church Street on a rainy Jazz Fest day, I could have counted on one hand the number of times I had crossed over this particular shop’s espresso-scented threshold (preferring instead to patronize a rival and cozier [albeit slightly muddy] shop instead). A lot can happen in a year, though, and my change in coffee shop preference is just the tip of that life-lesson-flavored coffee cake. And so it was that one year later, on yet another Jazz Fest day, instead of walking by this shop’s doors, I walked through them without hesitation. Of course, it didn’t hurt that last year’s rains had been replaced with a hot and muggy day accurately described in Webster’s Dictionary under “unbearable.”

It’s worth noting that, despite my complaints to the contrary, these hot and muggy days are actually part of the reason why I love this town. Taken separately from the rest of the variety of weather in New England, and specifically, Burlington, these “unbearable” days don’t have much of a bright side to them; when considered with the rest of the 4-season (or is it 5?) package, however, and their purpose becomes clear. It seems that they were added to our climate to produce that all-too-elusive perspective: you know, the one that helps us appreciate the good times by reminding us of the bad. It’s the same effect that results from the bitter nose-hair-freezing winter temperatures of late January. This perspective is on the minds of every Vermonter in the summer when the college kids leave, the lake temperatures climb, the winter-stomped grass turns green, and every sunset seems to be drawn by a kindergartner with a 96-color Crayola crayon box; and in the winter when the temperatures are cold but bearable, the snow hasn’t yet been corrupted by exhaust and sanding, and the streets, lit magically by tree lights and a vibrant moon, with the mountains as a backdrop, make you wonder whether Van Gogh had ever visited Burlington.

The best part of our region’s different seasons is that all of them last a significant amount of time, and yet not one of them lasts too long. It’s almost as if each season is an equal part to a 4-course dessert meal. The strawberry summers end as you begin to crave the apple-pie falls, which end just in time for the hot fudge sundae winters, which last just long enough to make the lemon-tart springs seem like a well-earned reward for the belly-ache-inducing lengthy winter. Rinse off your plates and repeat, making sure, of course, to save your forks. As someone who appreciates whimsy as much as he appreciates structure, it’s comforting to have an idea of what to expect for your next meal, without quite knowing how the meal will be prepared. Will it be an unseasonably hot fall, or a spring whose afternoons are just aching to turn into summer? And if you’re unsatisfied with a particular season, don’t worry: next year’s offering will most surely please. Our seasons are Vivaldi recordings set to repeat; until the sun turns black, they’ll always come full circle.

We’re nearing the Summer Solstice yet again and as the sun perfects its six-month dance with prime time, I can’t help but focus on the connection between New England’s four seasons and my own life. (You had to know that this blog was going to be about more than the weather!) As I’m sure you know, there’s a sister phrase to the idiom “come full circle”: “what goes around comes around,” which basically means you end up receiving what you give (aka, karma). And I’m sure all four of my readers have considered this phrase on more than one occasion when contemplating the fate of someone who has hurt them (i.e., “just wait till he gets his … what goes around comes around!”) or when dealing with a bad string of luck that leaves you with a sneaking suspicion that your past of giving poorly has finally come back to bite you on the receiving end. And I’ve thought these thoughts, too, but for the sake of today’s blog, I’d like to consider another point of view: “what goes around comes around” is just a five-word phrase for something Elton John could describe in three words: “Circle of Life.” Like the yin and yang, New England’s four seasons, or a Quentin Tarantino film, when it comes to life, the beginning is the end is the beginning, and all points in between are connected.

With this in the front of my mind, like Neo at the end of The Matrix, lately I’ve felt as if the layers of my life and the world around me have been removed and in their place I can now see the patterns connecting us all that have always been hidden just beneath the surface: a book I finished editing over 5 years ago that found its way back into my life in the most symbolic of ways; the feeling that my penultimateness has faded away exactly when it was supposed to, and that my bad luck has rubbed off on someone deserving of it; the fact that a year has passed by me since the last rainy Jazz Fest and that the rain has been usurped by the sun; and the realization that I’ve encountered four very distinct seasons in the last 12 months: the incipient decline of autumn, the frost bite of winter, the rebirth of spring, and the life, love, and warmth of summer. What went around has finally come around back to me, as fast as it possibly could.

We’ll Just Be Over in This Corner Changing the World

The day I turned 18, I headed to the local convenience store to purchase a pack of cigarettes and a lottery ticket. I didn’t smoke, and the lottery ticket turned out to be a losing one, but it didn’t matter. If the clerk hadn’t asked to see my ID, I would have shown it anyway; that’s how proud I was of the milestone I had reached. (On a side note, you should have seen how giddy I was when my insurance rates dropped when I turned 25.)

With that said, you can imagine how excited I was when I got to vote in my first election: Clinton vs. Dole. Since I was in college in November of 1996, my absentee vote for Clinton (of course I voted for Clinton, he Rocked the Vote and Arsenio) went by way of the Pony Express. The borderline-irrational excitement I felt at being able to finally exercise my American right was rivaled only by the extraordinary near-suicidal disappointment that struck me a few months later when I received word from the State of New York that my absentee vote had not counted for a hanging-chad like technicality.

Our country has always had trouble courting the average American teenage voter. With so many votes cast in an election, it’s tough to convince the overwhelmed 18-year-old that his/her vote counts. And with that mindset as my foundation, after my vote (or lack thereof) in 1996, I gave up voting altogether. That is, until the Republican Party decided to back an idiot solely for his name.

***We break this irregularly scheduled blog entry to go off on one final (thankfully) anti-Bush tirade***

History will end up judging George W. Bush as one of, if not, the worst president in our history based on his determination to turn a terrorist attack on our country into a vengeful attack on an uninvolved country and make the rest of the world hate us even more, rather than use it as motivation to really protect our country from further attacks, but I could have told you how bad a president he was in the summer of 2001. People seem to forget that pre-9/11, W was on vacation 42% of the time. I don’t know about you, but if in my first year of a new job I spent 42% of my time on vacation, I would have been fired.

And one more thing: imagine what kind of shape our economy would have been in now if, instead of pumping trillions of dollars into a new democracy halfway around the world that will never survive simply because it was forced down its people’s throats, we spent the money on strengthening our border defense (seven years later and it’s just as easy to get into our country as it was when W’s father was president!). This country got out of a depression by employing its people to support a war; and it sure as hell could have stayed out of a recession by employing its people to build up and maintain our border protection.

***OK, back to the blog***

With the chip on my absentee ballot shoulder, and with the idiot Texan governor providing my inspiration, in 2000 I patiently waited in an overcrowded line with other inspired voters at a downtown-Burlington election site. Twenty minutes later, when I finally reached the front of the line, I was informed that I was in the wrong district and that I’d have to fill out an absentee ballot that would be delivered to my correct district after the election. Later that night, when my suspicions that my vote would never get counted took front seat in my thoughts, thousands of Florida voters went to bed unaware that they were about to feel the same way. At this point, two elections into my career as an American voter, I was fairly certain that I’d never wake up the day after Election Day feeling satisfied that my vote had made a difference. The unbelievable (in its stupidity) 2004 election results further emphasized my gut feeling.

And though the American voting process has kicked me in the aforementioned gut a number of times, I can’t help but feel excited. You see, in two days, I’ll be voting in the first presidential primary in my life that will make a difference. I’m not exaggerating. 1996 was Bill Clinton’s reelection campaign (not exactly a popular moment for primaries); 2000 was Al Gore’s campaign and his only serious competitor Bill Bradley never got out of the starting gate; and in 2004, my great Vermont state backed its son Howard Dean in the primary…weeks after he had dropped out of the race.

So here I am, ready for the new Super Tuesday, March 4, and after all that I’ve been through, you can imagine how bitter I am every time I read a news story that talks about Texas and Ohio. If I had a nickel for every time my state’s primary was described in these articles in one line as “Vermont is also voting” (if mentioned at all), I’d have the kind of financial backing the Clinton campaign sees only when Hilary loans it her own money. For all the time and energy spent covering our hillbilly neighbor’s primary, you’d think the media would have the courtesy to at least give us a headline or two. But since they won’t, I guess I’ll have to wait until November for my vote to count. Hopefully it will.